On Vox: It Could Change Your Life…
Filed under: goal setting, JJL, learning
Ok, so we’ve established that change is good and that in order for
you to create change in life, you need to have a proper foundation. The
right attitude.
But there is a problem.
As you
begin to make changes in your daily life you will see the fruits of
those efforts and so will the people around you. Alright, no problem
there. But your perspective changes about who you are and what you want
to be and so does your view of people in your life.
The nuances
of your friends and family can often become more pronounced because
you’ve already traveled that road and moved on. Have you ever caught
yourself thinking that someone close to you could really stand for an
attitude change?
Sally, you should watch a movie I recently watched, its called The Secret and it could change your life…
Once
we’ve tasted the sweetness of growth and positive light its natural to
want everyone to walk the same path but unless it is what they want, it isn’t going to happen.
In
my experience, trying to change the people around you is the hardest
thing you’re every going to try to do. Why? Because you can’t force
them down a path that isn’t their own.
We adopt and accept the
impossible because we feel it is our mission to help everyone. Yes, its
true that if they adopted different ways and ideas, they would live a
better life but you can’t control them. You can’t make that choice for
them. What you would do or how you would live if you were in their
shoes isn’t the point. It isn’t your life–it is their own.
Give
them the best gift you possibly could. Just be yourself and walk your
path. They will see for themselves what happens in your life and will
make their own choices. Besides, you don’t need the distraction from
your own purpose and goals.
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February 27th, 2007 at 8:41 am
There’s nothing much harder than convincing the people around you to change. A change in your life will probably trigger a reaction in them. It could give them something to think about.
February 27th, 2007 at 2:41 pm
Pamela - I agree wholeheartedly. It just might cause positive change in their own lives. It has to be their choice and on their terms. Seth Godin always talks about how you can’t change a persons world view and he’s right. You can’t change their believe system but if they see it in you it might just spark a flame.
March 1st, 2007 at 12:22 am
Tim, you’re so right. Once we have experienced the light bulb coming on, we want to share the whole experience with those we love and care about. I’ve often been reading a book, or blog, and thought - this is just what so-and-so needs! They have to read this! Only, of course, they don’t want to… or feel affronted that you would even think that they weren’t perfect, or you just know that if you say “this is great - you have to watch this movie, it’s the talk of the world!!!” that The Secret will sit on their shelf until you ask for it back again…
The only way is as you say, let them see the change in you. Let them ask what you’ve got.
A family member recently came to me at a particularly hard period in his life and asked me to recommend/lend him any books that may help. (He said I was the one who had her s**t together:) I did. He read. His life is looking good! But it had to come from him, first.